My desire for you is that you can be healthy and happy... and free.

We understood that is not easy the first time that we try to save our life, just to seat, relax and listen in a room to some persons that we haven't seen before in our life, talking about the troubles of their life, just to try to understand (I don't know what), if when we went to a meeting, was because we were at the bottom of the hole where we threw ourselves in our naive and selfish attitude believing that we knew it all, and that we could control almost everything about our life, and even the life of those around us... blaming on others our own mistakes, and pretending not to remember anything about it.

One of the first things that I heard in AL Anon was that we didn't have to accept unacceptable behavior from others. This idea helped me to see that I need not tolerate violence or abuse and that I can set boundaries and take choices I hadn't even recognized before, like a loving detachment.

I sat some limits, not to control others, but to offer myself guidelines to know what "was not acceptable" and what to do about it. An alcoholic blames on others the causes of all his/her tragedies, but when he/she plays the role of the martyr, he even blames himself. The alcoholic destroys everything within himself, and around him.

Perhaps now I will think of time as a special kind of checking account. I have twenty-four hours to spend. By putting Al-Anon’s principles to work in my life today, I am choosing to use these hours to grow, enjoy and improve. No fear, no anguish, no hate, not despair, no anger, no emotions that harm my health and my feelings. This is the freedom that Al Anon makes me learn, to grow, to enjoy, to improve the best I can do and be, working with my own life.

Many had to die so that I could receive this fresh and wise alternative to save my life today, God knows how much I need this, if i don't do better now, those who had to die to save my life, died in a meaningless effort to bring serenity and happiness to every individual who surrenders his thoughts to God, and learn how to follow God's will?.

There was a personal "secret wish" leading us to die, some people calls that an evil spirit, others call that a wrong mental zone, others call that a negative idea or thought, others call that an evil possession, and they all are right... since every concept is a synonymous expression of the same thing... the illness of alcoholism, but let's see it in the real perspective to understand what this is and how people who never drink a single drop of alcohol can be so damaged by this.

And let's learn how to heal our own thoughts, feelings, and our entire life.